Wanting everything, but giving nothing – a story about value

My first "Lovely rant" on why to never let anyone exploit you!

I decided to open up a new category for my writings, I want to call them “Lovely rants”. What are they and what is their purpose?

In life, we feel different emotions, they are often categorized as “good” or “bad”, or “positive” and “negative”. Positive emotions are joy, happiness, love, gratitude etc… and negative emotions are anger, rage, sadness, devastation etc… supposedly. I assume many people are aware and try to be mindful about it and realize that emotions are just emotions, they have no such grading.

In my life, I have often suppressed those “negative” emotions, exactly because of that: they are bad, I am not supposed to feel rage or anger. Recently I have learned to healthy express those emotions.

While I am generally an optimistic person, very hopeful and usually see the glass half full, I also have moments in which I am annoyed, irritated, agitated or just speechless about the ridiculousness of a situation. I am trying my best to stay relaxed and calm, not be judgmental etc, but sometimes my heightened state of energy needs a release.

Lucky me, I have friends and mentors in whose presence I can release these energies in a healthy way and I usually laugh at the end and say “rant over”. Those friends have told me many times, that they like those rants of mine, they truly enjoy them even, I was very surprised about it & it made me think… in those rants, I believe I am still respectful, caring, understanding, I try not to judge, but I also try to not hide my disbelief of the situation. I see the human-ness in the external and my own and, when I share my thoughts, I speak in a heightened state of energy, while I am usually very calm, so it is an interesting mix I think.

I recently encountered a situation that truly left me speechless, it irritated me so deeply, that I couldn’t fall asleep for 2 hours, and I usually fall asleep within 5 minutes when I get into bed. As it falls into my recent thoughts around “values”, I decided to write about it here in form of a “Lovely rant”.

I also decided to only share it with paid subscribers, cos this part of me is a part that I dont show to everyone and it could be taken wrongly, so best to have a type of protective border around it, while still sharing how I see the world in a safe way :-).

So here we go: today I will share with you a recent situation in which I was asked for everything, but told that I get nothing in return - a story around my personal and professional values. I will share with you why I think this is never, truly NEVER! a transaction that should be agreed upon…