Compassion: Lovey-dovey love & light or strict NO & boundaries

Explorations on the wide range of love & compassion

I have recently explored compassion on several different levels. I think that I used to believe that compassion is only love, care, consoling, agreeing and being soft, not-agitating or confronting.

However, I don’t think this is true anymore and I have recently gone on a different compassion road, still keeping love & care at the core. I do believe compassion sometimes needs to be strict, tough, with NO’s and hard boundaries.

At the core, I think that all the agreeing, listening, caring and repetitive words of consolidation and compassion have an end at some point, especially when nothing is changing, and I am finding myself at the receiving end of its and hearing the same over and over again. Then my lovey-dovey compassion container is emptied, and my strict NO’s and setting boundaries compassion comes into action.

What does this mean?

Just to be clear: I still feel love & care for the other person, but now is the time to be more direct and brutally honest, without sugarcoating and packing-in-cotton actions…